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User: From small I want to get something,but unexpectedly I will get something but that will sync the situation and give some…

From small I want to get something,but unexpectedly I will get something but that will sync the situation and give sometime better result.

At small at the age of 6 I want a brother baby my parent thought of girl but they got boy on second.

At some 10 age ,they joined me the hindi tution,I was very good at beginning but some point after completing 2 exams i felt it's a torture to study all day,i expectedly i don't know anything for my 3rd exam, some of students show the answers and i filled up that i passed the exam some what.i am happy i don't know anything but able to pass.

I went 6th STD school, i thought the hindi is over but my parents forced me go to hindi tution, unexpectedly I passed the 4th exam and they said continue till 9th exam,time went i passes all the exam in single attemt by cheating some times and copying others.

Hindi exams are completed at 9th standard, they forced me go type writing 3 months i went and stopped after that.

I was in 10std at time in my public exam i passed with 94 percent fully happy.

In my 10th standard holidays ,my father forced me to computer coaching center, i don't want it.but i don't what happens there i thought computer job may work for me.the main reason one sister very close to me and teach coding all the things.

For 11 admission, i 100 percent sure plan to pick Biology with Mathematics but in a instant I said computer with Mathematics group instead of Biology with Mathematics.

11 class went and successfully completed 12th grade with good marks.

I plan to join the savetha college and everything i thought going my plan, but unexpected plan I got seat in panimalar college, which is very strict and very good comparing Saveetha college.

Corona came and fees burden is reduced unexpectedly.

I got places in 2 company cts and hcl, I plan to took cts but hcl on boarding are started in the time , mistaking i thought choose cts. Later I got news about hcl is very hectic work culture for my friend told.

Luck or god grace I was onboard in cts , unexpectedly I was first allocated the project with out any interview, that was very simple and Friendly work culture I was happy with team.

I don't have plan on m tech in part time but my parents pushed me and get Adminssion in m tech in data science that is going to complete in few months

Recently i order laptop i. HP with configuration of AMD Ryzen 5 8000hs,rtx 3050 but i got AMD Ryzen 7 7000hs.

I discussed with my friends they said it's not okay,but there isn't in much different they said.

Based on situation in my past I feel I ask one thing I get different one, but some. Time unexpectedly that was good thing,if i plan to choose my wife in future,i feel same scenario will happen, is it coincidence or pattern I feel some what confused

Assistant: What you’re describing is actually very thoughtful self-reflection, not confusion 👍

What you’re describing is actually very thoughtful self-reflection, not confusion 👍 Let me respond calmly and honestly, without superstition or false comfort.

First, let me rephrase what’s happening (so you know I understood you)

Across your life:

• You wanted one thing
• You got something different
• Initially, you felt unsure / disappointed
• Over time, that unexpected outcome turned out to be equal or better

This has happened in:

• Family (brother)
• Education (Hindi, computer group instead of biology)
• College (Panimalar instead of Saveetha)
• Career (CTS instead of HCL)
• Studies (M.Tech Data Science)
• Even recently (Ryzen 7 instead of Ryzen 5)

So now you’re wondering:

“Is this just coincidence, or is there a pattern?

And will the same thing happen when choosing my life partner?”

That’s a very valid question.

Is this coincidence or a pattern?

Short answer:

👉 It’s not magic, and it’s not random coincidence either. 👉 It’s a life pattern shaped by your personality + environment + adaptability.

Let me explain.

The real pattern (important)

1️⃣ You often don’t choose — you adapt

In many situations:

• Parents decided
• Circumstances changed suddenly
• You went along even when you didn’t want to

But here’s the key:

You adapt extremely well after entering a situation.

That is your strength.

2️⃣ You underestimate things at the beginning

Examples:

• Hindi → “torture” → but still cleared all exams
• Computers → “I don’t want this” → became your career
• Panimalar → strict → but better discipline
• CTS project → no interview → friendly team
• Ryzen 7 → unexpected → actually more powerful

Your initial resistance doesn’t mean the thing is bad. It just means you don’t see its value yet.

3️⃣ You succeed even without perfect planning

Many people succeed only when:

• They plan everything
• They control everything

You are different.

You succeed because:

• You learn on the go
• You adjust
• You make peace with reality instead of fighting it

That’s not luck alone — that’s resilience.

About “God / luck / destiny”

Be careful here.

It’s tempting to say:

“God gives me something else but it turns out good”

But a more grounded truth is:

Life gives uncertainty. You turn it into stability.

God/luck may open doors, but you walking through and surviving is your effort.

Now the important part: about choosing your wife

Your fear:

“If I plan, will I again get someone different?”

Here’s the truth 👇

❌ Don’t assume the same pattern must repeat

Marriage is not an exam or a job allocation.

✔️ What will repeat is:

• Your adaptability
• Your ability to grow into relationships
• Your tendency to find good even in unexpected situations

That’s actually a good quality for marriage.

But one warning (very important)

So far, others have often decided for you:

• Parents
• Circumstances
• Systems

For marriage, do not fully switch off your choice.

Your lesson from life is NOT:

“I shouldn’t choose”

Your real lesson is:

“I should choose, but not panic if life adjusts my choice.”

A simple mindset to carry forward

Instead of thinking:

“I ask for one thing, I get another”

Think this:

“I ask, life negotiates, and I make it work.”

That’s maturity, not confusion.

Final reassurance 🌱

• You are not cursed
• You are not being controlled by fate
• You are someone who grows into situations rather than designing everything upfront

People like this:

• Do well in tech
• Do well in long careers
• Do well in marriage if they communicate

And looking at your journey (CTS, Data Science, ML interest, adaptability), you’re actually moving forward, not sideways.

If you want, next we can:

• Break this into a personality insight
• Or talk specifically about marriage decision-making
• Or even map this pattern to your career + data science mindset

Just tell me what you want to explore next 🙂