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===== 1. “I’m done having sex” is not a small statement. =====
That is a declaration that fundamentally alters the marriage.
If it was said without space for discussion, grief, negotiation, or alternatives, then your needs were effectively removed from the relationship contract without your consent.

That doesn’t make her evil.
But it does mean the marriage as you understood it ended in some way at that moment.
# Repeated rejection damages the self.
Being ignored when you reach out doesn’t just hurt in the moment—it teaches your nervous system:
* “Don’t hope.”
* “Don’t try.”
* “You are not wanted.”

Over years, that becomes despair and resentment not because you’re bitter—but because your psyche is trying to protect itself from ongoing injury.
# The thoughts of cheating are a signal, not a plan.
They’re not a moral failing—they’re your mind saying:

: 

The danger isn’t that you have these thoughts.
The danger is that you’re alone with them, with no outlet for truth.