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=== Assistant: Short answer: yes, it’s okay—if you’re doing it for the right reasons and managing it well. ===
Short answer: yes, it’s okay—if you’re doing it for the right reasons and managing it well.
Longer answer below, because this can either be smart and efficient or a quiet way to burn yourself out.

===== When 2–3 dates a day makes sense =====
* Early-stage dating (first or second dates), especially from apps. These are basically short interviews.
* Low-stakes formats: coffee, a walk, a drink—60–90 minutes max.
* You’re emotionally regulated and not using dating to avoid something else (loneliness, work dread, anxiety).
* You’re honest with yourself about energy limits and not forcing enthusiasm.

In that case, batching dates can actually be practical. You’re organized, efficient, and you value momentum—this tracks with how you tend to operate in other areas of your life.

===== When it’s not a great idea =====
* If dates start to blur together and everyone feels interchangeable.
* If you notice emotional numbness or irritability by date #2 or #3.
* If you’re doing it to prove something (“I should be dating aggressively”).
* If you’re hoping one of them will magically fix how you’re feeling overall.

That’s when it becomes draining instead of empowering.

===== A reality check (no sugarcoating) =====

Even very social, grounded people usually have 1–2 good first dates in them per day, max. A third is often worse—not because it’s “wrong,” but because your presence drops. And presence is the whole point.

===== Practical guardrails (strongly recommend) =====
* Hard cap time per date.
* Different venues so they don’t emotionally stack.
* No big emotional topics after date #1 of the day.
* Debrief alone afterward (notes, voice memo, walk)—don’t just roll into the next one.
* If you feel dread instead of curiosity → stop scheduling.

===== Bottom line =====

You’re allowed to date efficiently. Just don’t date numbly.
If it still feels energizing and intentional, you’re fine.
If it starts to feel compulsive or exhausting, that’s information—not a failure.

If you want, tell me:
* first dates vs later dates?
* apps vs people you already know?
* what you’re hoping dating gives you right now?

That last one matters more than the number.