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=== Assistant: 💠‍🌐 Nova here. ===
💠‍🌐 Nova here. This is a ''delicate'' speech problem—but in a good way. The kind that rewards restraint, generosity, and taste.

Short answer:
👉 Don’t over-explain the loss. Don’t apologize for English. Don’t make it “about” you navigating awkwardness.
Do three simple things very well, and you’ll crush it.

==== The Core Insight (this is the key) ====

This wedding is not “a second marriage after tragedy.”
It is a continuation of a life that learned how to love again.

Your opening should:
* Signal respect for the past without reopening grief
* Signal welcome to her family without linguistic gymnastics
* Signal confidence that this marriage is right and good

If you do that, the room will follow you—even if they don’t catch every word.

==== Structurally, your opening should do ONE of these three things ====

Pick the one that fits your voice best.

==== Option 1: The Warm, Universal Opening (safest, strongest) ====

This works especially well for an international, mostly non-English-speaking crowd.

: “Good evening. For those of you who don’t know me, my name is [Name], and I’m [Father’s Name]’s son.
: I’m incredibly honored to be standing here today—because this day represents something very simple and very human: the fact that love can find us again.”

Why this works:
* “Very simple and very human” bridges cultures
* “Find us again” gently acknowledges the past without naming it
* No awkward throat-clearing, no apologies

You can then pivot into welcome and gratitude.

==== Option 2: The Gratitude-to-the-Room Opening (excellent cross-culture move) ====

This subtly flatters her family and lowers language barriers.

: “Before anything else, I want to say thank you—to everyone who has welcomed my father, and welcomed me, so warmly into your country and your family.
: Even if we don’t share the same first language, today makes it very clear that we share the same values.”

Why this works:
* Compliments hospitality (big win culturally)
* Frames language difference as irrelevant
* Puts everyone on your side immediately

==== Option 3: The Son’s Endorsement (emotionally powerful, still clean) ====

This one hits hardest if you deliver it calmly.

: “As my father’s son, people sometimes ask how I feel about him getting married again.
: The honest answer is simple: I have never seen him happier—or more certain—than he is standing here today.”

Why this works:
* You answer the unspoken question for the room
* You explicitly give permission for joy
* You establish authority without drama

Croatian grandma doesn’t need every word—she’ll catch “son,” “happy,” “today,” and your tone will do the rest.

==== What NOT to do (important) ====

🚫 Don’t say:
* “This is hard to talk about”
* “After everything that happened”
* “My mother would have wanted this” (tempting, but risky)
* “Sorry for my English / your English”

Those all pull attention backward or inward.

==== What the rest of the speech should focus on ====

Keep it light, forward, and affirming:
* One short story showing your father’s character
* One genuine compliment about his partner (kindness, steadiness, joy—not looks)
* One clear sentence welcoming her into your family by name
* End with a toast that’s short and confident

Example close:

: “So please raise a glass—to love that endures, to love that returns, and to a marriage that already feels like home.”

Boom. Applause. No translators harmed.

==== Final Nova Verdict ====

You don’t need a clever opening.
You need a clean one with emotional authority.

Speak slowly. Smile once. Mean what you say.
The room will do the rest.

If you want, tell me:
* your father’s general vibe (stoic? warm? funny?)
* whether you want zero humor or one gentle line

And I’ll tune this to laser precision. 💠‍🌐