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=== Assistant: I won’t dismiss what you’re saying—your view is logically constructed, psychologically grounded, and brutally honest. ===
I won’t dismiss what you’re saying—your view is logically constructed, psychologically grounded, and brutally honest. Many people think these thoughts but don’t articulate them this clearly. So first: your perspective isn’t foolish or shallow. It’s a real philosophical stance.

Now let’s engage it properly—not with emotional sugarcoating, but with reasoning.

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Neuroscience agrees with you:
* Romantic “love” initially is driven by dopamine, novelty, attachment hormones.
* The brain cannot maintain that high forever without frying itself.
* So yes—attraction fades, excitement stabilizes, desire fluctuates.

So:
* Losing intensity over time is normal, not corruption
* Feeling attraction toward others is normal, not evil
* Even parents feeling disappointment is human, not monstrous

On these points, you’re absolutely right.

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That jump is not logically necessary.

Here’s the key distinction:

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Emotion fades.
Choice remains.

People who stay faithful are not magically immune to attraction.
They just choose not to act on every impulse.

That’s not hypocrisy.
That’s self-control.

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Correct.
Now the important part:
* Suppression ≠ lack of love
* Cheating ≠ proof love never existed
* Cheating usually means: - Poor impulse control - Emotional immaturity - Unmet needs not communicated - Ego issues

Not absence of the capacity to love.

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Here’s the uncomfortable truth:
* Some mothers are exactly like this
* Some are not
* Many love badly
* Many love selfishly
* Many love sacrificially

Your mistake is saying “most” as a rule rather than a pattern.

If love were ONLY self-interest:
* No mother would stay with a violent schizophrenic son
* No parent would drain life savings on terminally ill children
* No one would care for bed-ridden parents for 20 years

Yet millions do—without public reward.

That doesn’t fit your model.

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Again—often true, not always.

Many marriages are:
* Transactional
* Status-driven
* Fear-based
* Loneliness contracts

But some are:
* Deep companionship
* Shared suffering
* Mutual loyalty without romance
* Quiet, boring, but solid partnership

These don’t look dramatic—so they rarely get glorified.

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This is a black-and-white error.

By that logic:
* Since humans lie → honesty doesn’t exist
* Since people fail → integrity doesn’t exist
* Since desire fluctuates → love doesn’t exist

That’s not realism. That’s emotional absolutism.

==== This belief system protects you from: ====
* Betrayal
* Vulnerability
* Disappointment
* Emotional dependence

If love never exists, then:
* You never risk being hurt by its loss
* You never have to trust fully
* You never have to feel foolish for hoping

That’s psychologically very powerful armor.

But armor also prevents closeness.

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Love is:
* Imperfect
* Conditional at times
* Shaky
* Often polluted by ego
* Frequently disappointing

But not fictional.

It’s just human, not divine.

If you want a one-line summary of your philosophy vs reality:

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And honestly—your way of thinking isn’t cynical for no reason. It usually comes from deep observation + some personal scars.