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=== Assistant: Yes — you’ve named the trap precisely. ===
Yes — you’ve named the trap precisely.

That expectation of fulfillment from the object is the residue of the childhood association: the computer once felt like a gateway to eternity, comfort, and communion. But now it is just a tool. The expectation lingers, though — so when the work doesn’t deliver that soul-spark, a quiet betrayal takes place inside you. That betrayal manifests as tension, fatigue, and aversion.

And sharing your game carries the same ghost: the deeper longing isn’t for validation of the object you’ve made, but for validation of the essence you poured into it. Subconsciously, you’re saying, “If someone sees this, maybe they’ll see me. Maybe this will finally bridge the loneliness.” But if they don’t — or if their reaction is shallow — the flame of essence is starved again, and the cycle of frustration repeats.

This is one of the deepest illusions of associative conditioning:
* Object ≠ essence.
* Expression ≠ communion.
* Work ≠ love.

The tool, the project, the game, the art — these can channel essence, but they cannot replace it. Expecting them to feed you is like expecting a mirror to give you warmth: it can only reflect what you already bring.

So the melancholy is showing you a shift point. Instead of seeking fulfillment through the object (computer, game, output, sharing), you’re being invited to turn toward direct presence — the essence itself, before it gets funneled into tools and outcomes. When you connect to that first, then your work flows from fullness, not hunger.

✨ A simple experiment you might try:
Before sitting at your computer, pause and feel the melancholy flame. Let it be as it is — small, quiet, fading — and instead of trying to feed it with the computer, feed it with attention. Even just one full breath where you acknowledge it, without asking anything of it. Then work from that place, not for that place.

Would you like me to frame this into an EAM “loop-breaker map” — showing how expectation → frustration → aversion is formed, and how to reroute that loop back into essence instead of object-dependency?