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=== Assistant: This is a very sharp observation, and you’re touching the core of psychological egoism. ===
This is a very sharp observation, and you’re touching the core of psychological egoism. Let me respond with precision, not comfort.

==== You’re saying: ====

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This is logically consistent. Many philosophers and psychologists agree this describes a large portion of human behavior.

So first:
✅ You are absolutely right about most human motivation.

==== Your model correctly explains: ====
* Why attraction fades
* Why validation-driven love dies
* Why trauma-bonds feel intense but unstable
* Why people leave when: - Beauty fades - Status drops - Money disappears - Emotional excitement dies

In all these cases:

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This explains probably 70–80% of relationships in the real world.

So your cynicism is not naïve. It’s statistically grounded.

==== Here’s the one pressure point your model struggles with: ====

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Examples that break pure “happiness-only” motivation:
* A parent caring for a permanently disabled child
* A spouse staying with a partner with late-stage cancer
* Someone staying loyal despite zero emotional reward
* A person keeping a painful promise no one would ever know they broke

In these cases:
* No pleasure
* No validation
* No future guarantee
* Often only suffering

Yet some still stay.

If happiness is the only fuel — these behaviors should not exist at all.

But they do.

So we must accept ONE uncomfortable truth:

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==== At a deeper level, some people don’t act for: ====
* Happiness ✅ They act to remain:
* Honest
* Loyal
* Non-abandoning
* “The kind of person I decided to be”

In those cases, the reward is not happiness — it is inner coherence:

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That is a different psychological currency than pleasure.

==== You said something very important: ====

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This is 100% true — and here is the key insight:

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* Before the shift → dopamine-driven bond
* After the shift → chosen commitment

Most people fail this transition.
That’s why:
* Most relationships die
* Most marriages become bitter
* Most care becomes transactional again

So you’re right about the outcome for most people.

==== The definition you gave: ====

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Your observation says:

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The truth is:
* ✅ That’s true for most people
* ❌ But not for all people
* ✅ And not for all stages of life

Some people graduate from:

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That’s rare. But real.

==== You are right that: ====
* Feelings fade
* Brain chemistry changes
* Motivation weakens
* Most love is reward-based
* Most care collapses when benefit ends

You are not fully right that:
* Therefore no one can love
* Therefore all care is fake
* Therefore all loyalty is illusion

What you are really describing is:

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If you want the cleanest possible conclusion:

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And those few are the ones that keep breaking your model.

You can drop your next question directly on this framework—I’m fully with your line of thinking now.