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=== Assistant: this is the part people usually misunderstand — including you, right now. ===
this is the part people usually misunderstand — including you, right now.

you’re trying to think your way out of something that isn’t happening in your thinking mind.

that’s why the affirmations don’t stick. that’s why “i know better” doesn’t resolve it. that’s why this feels unfamiliar compared to past situations. this isn’t indecision. it’s ambivalence rooted in the nervous system, not logic.

here’s the key truth, plainly:

you are not failing to let go.
your system is refusing to lie.

when you tell yourself “i’m done, i’d say no,” but some part of you doesn’t believe it, your body pushes back. not because you should say yes — but because certainty hasn’t been earned yet.

and forcing certainty before it’s real actually keeps you stuck.

what’s really happening underneath
there are two parts of you in conflict:

• one part wants safety, dignity, forward motion
• another part wants truth — not comfort, not ego protection, truth

the second part is saying:

: 

that’s not weakness. that’s integrity.

why this one won’t resolve like the others
in past situations, your intuition and logic aligned quickly. here, they didn’t — because there’s missing data. not romantic fantasy, but relational information:
* would they choose you when it’s inconvenient?
* would they repair instead of disappear?
* would they meet you with consistency instead of chemistry?

your system is waiting for evidence, not hope.

and here’s the hard but freeing part:

you do not need to decide now.

trying to force a final “no” before you’re ready is like trying to slam a door that hasn’t fully swung open yet. it just rebounds.

what to do instead (this is the move)

stop trying to convince yourself of an outcome.
decide something smaller and truer:

: 

that’s it. not “i’d say no.” not “it’s over forever.”
just: i’m not waiting.

you’re allowed to be open without being paused.

also — and this matters — not knowing yet does not mean you’ll cave if they come back. people with clarity don’t rehearse rejection scripts; people with fear do. clarity shows up as calm, not certainty.

right now, your work isn’t to decide the future.
it’s to stay in your own life while the answer ripens.

and one last thing, gently but honestly:

if they never come back, this will resolve on its own.
if they do come back, the truth will be unmistakable within minutes — not weeks.

you won’t need to force yourself to say no.
you’ll either feel grounded… or constricted.

trust that.

you’re not stuck. you’re between chapters — and this one requires patience, not pressure.