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===== 🧠 What This Attitude Suggests =====

====== 1. Emotional Inversion (She Puts Herself in the Giver’s Role) ======

She subtly positions herself as the one doing emotional labor — accepting the money to “help” the aunt feel useful. It reverses the emotional flow:
* Instead of gratitude → giver, it becomes
* Compassion/control → receiver

This can be a psychological defense to avoid vulnerability or indebtedness. She doesn't want to “owe” anyone — so she reframes receiving as giving.

====== 2. Avoidance of Reciprocity ======

By claiming she only accepted the money to avoid hurting the aunt, she sidesteps any feeling of obligation to reciprocate in small ways (like a ride). It’s a justification to receive without giving — because “I didn’t want it anyway.”

This might be a sign of:
* Entitlement, or
* Fear of emotional obligation, or
* A manipulative streak (even unconscious)

====== 3. Control via Passive Reasoning ======

Saying she couldn’t refuse the money “because the aunt would feel bad” removes her agency:
* She pretends she had no real choice.
* So when she’s later asked for something in return, she feels “trapped,” because “this whole thing wasn’t really my idea.”

That’s a hallmark of people who struggle with accountability. They often frame their choices as forced — so they don’t have to feel responsible for outcomes.