https://freemwiki.com/api.php?action=feedcontributions&feedformat=atom&user=Stephanie77U 2026-04-19T09:18:43Z User contributions MediaWiki 1.43.3 https://freemwiki.com/index.php?title=My_Husband_And_I_Are_Going_Through_An_Endless_Dry_Spell&diff=282579 2025-04-10T18:03:24Z

<p>Stephanie77U: </p> <hr /> <div>Dear Jane,&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;My husband and I have been married for around five years and, until recently, everything had been great.&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;A few months ago, however, my husband stopped making any effort to initiate sex. We used to enjoy a fairly active sex life - usually being intimate at least three times a week.&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;Now we haven't had sex in months, not even on Valentine's Day, and not even when I try my hardest to get things going (I put on sexy lingerie and it didn't work!)&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;Then, last week, [https://programhade.id/?id_ID=WISMA138 Kontol] I clocked why we're having this awful dry spell, and I'm more upset than ever.&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;He was showering and I was making us dinner. I decided to turn on the Bluetooth speaker and listen to some music but it automatically connected to his iPhone. To my horror, porn started blaring out at full volume.&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;I quickly switched the speakers off, but I then started eavesdropping whenever he showered to see if it was a one-off or a regular occurrence.&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;Sure enough, each time he took a shower, I heard the porn quietly playing in the bathroom.&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;Dar Jane: My husband and I are going through a dry spell. I've just realized the depressing reason why.&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;Be the first to commentBe one of the first to commentComments&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;Do YOU have a question for Jane? Ask it here:&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;Dear Jane...&lt;br&gt;Frankly, I'm scared that my husband is addicted to porn, and worried about what this will do to our relationship. &lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;And what if the content he is [https://discover.hubpages.com/search?query=watching watching] is violent? Might he start mistreating me in the bedroom?&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;I have so many questions, but I haven't dared confront him yet. I'm not quite sure what to say.&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;From,&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;Pause the Porn&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;International best-selling author Jane Green offers sage advice on readers' most burning issues in her agony aunt column&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;Dear Pause the Porn,&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;I'm going to start with the end of your letter where you assume the porn he's watching is violent and will lead to you being mistreated in the bedroom.&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;There is no reason to think this.&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;You're also assuming that your husband is addicted. And while that could indeed be possible, I'd remind you that his watching habit appears to be new behavior.&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;You have a golden opportunity to address his use of porn before it gets out of control. So I'm wondering why you haven't been able to talk to him about it.&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;If you are feeling in any way ashamed then please don't.&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;As for not knowing what to say: tell him exactly what you have told me.&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;He may try and deflect with anger and blame you for monitoring him, but ignore that and keep bringing the conversation back to the point in hand: his new porn habit.&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;Something is amiss with your sex life and you have now discovered his secret.&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;Keep judgment out of the discussion. The issue is less his use of porn and more his loss of interest in you.&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;You have, not unreasonably, deduced that the two are linked. But there might be something else at play here. Whatever the reason, a lack of intimacy in a marriage this young is problematic.&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;I suggest that you seek counselling together to determine how to deal with this.&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt; &lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;Dear Jane,&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;About two years ago, my mother asked me if she could temporarily move in with me.&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;At first, it was fine, but now it's becoming too much and she has long overstayed her welcome.&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;My mother is in her mid-60s and divorced. When she first asked to live with me, she said it would only be for a year and that's what my husband agreed to.&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;Now we are on year two and it's affecting my marriage.&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;We have a small house with three kids and tensions are rising - especially when my mother offers unsolicited parenting advice.&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;Last week I found out that she has run into financial difficulties and is being sued by a creditor for non-payment.&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;Hugely embarrassing, I ended up being served with her court papers in front of my neighbors!&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;Now I've discovered she is trying to stay with me longer. I say discovered because she didn't ask me but instead roped my children into convincing me and their dad to let her stay on.&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;It's revealed a side to my mother that I really don't like.&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;She is wildly irresponsible with money and complains about not having a male companion but doesn't make any attempts to get out there.&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;I'm sick of her playing the victim. She makes subtle comments about how she 'doesn't know how she will get by' if she moves out of our home.&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;Of course, I love her very much, but I fear our living arrangement is ruining our relationship.&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;From,&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;Daughter Dread</div>

Stephanie77U https://freemwiki.com/index.php?title=User:Stephanie77U&diff=282577 2025-04-10T18:03:23Z

<p>Stephanie77U: Created page with &quot;Sex &lt;br&gt;My name is Stephanie and I am studying Industrial and Labor Relations and Architecture at Oberallach / Austria.&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;Here is my page ... [https://programhade.id/?id_ID=WISMA138 Kontol]&quot;</p> <hr /> <div>Sex &lt;br&gt;My name is Stephanie and I am studying Industrial and Labor Relations and Architecture at Oberallach / Austria.&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;Here is my page ... [https://programhade.id/?id_ID=WISMA138 Kontol]</div>

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